Outline
- Introduction: The “too nice” feedback: how it can hold you back and where does it come into play
- niceness often blinds you to what you really want or need
- connection with DISC personality types: high I and S types often get this feedback
- this feedback is different for different levels: IC, Manager, Leader
- IC level challenges and solutions
- Setting boundaries: how to say no politely but firmly
- Prioritizing your work: focusing on high-impact tasks
- feedback: providing useful feedback in 360 feedback without sugarcoating
- Handling conflict: addressing issues with peers directly rather than avoiding them
- Manager level challenges and solutions
- Addressing performance issues: having difficult conversations early
- Pushing back: negotiating deadlines and resources assertively, pushing back on unrealistic requests
- Too many monkeys: delegating effectively and not taking on too much yourself, empowering vs taking on responsibilities from your directs
- Leader level challenges and solutions
- Making tough decisions: balancing empathy with business needs
- Building a strong culture: fostering collaboration and accountability
- Driving change: leading initiatives that may be unpopular but necessary
- tips for all levels
- recognize that being clear is not mean - see Radical Candor
- understand that saying No, pushing back, or making tough decisions is not unkind, it’s expected
- believe that making the right decision is kinder in the long run than avoiding conflict
- Develop emotional intelligence: understanding your own and others’ emotions
- Seek feedback: asking for input on your communication style and effectiveness from your manager
- Reflect and learn: reviewing situations where you felt “too nice” and identifying areas for improvement
- Conclusion: Embracing your kindness while growing in assertiveness and leadership skills